Welcome to Comeback Class

Welcome to the first episode of Comeback Class – host Lauren Lewis AKA The Heartbreak Nurse gives a quick run down of what the show will be about and offers some tips for those looking to kickstart their healing journey.

Access your free “7 Things to Do Right After the Breakup” eGuide here.

Hello, my friend. And welcome to the very first episode of comeback class. My name is Lauren Lewis, AKA the heartbreak nurse. I teach people how to heal from heartbreak using personal growth strategies so they can become their ideal self and find their ideal partner. So if that sounds like something you wanna do, you come to the right place.

It’s my personal opinion that while breakups can be some of the most painful and devastating experiences that we go through, they can also be some of the most transformative. So my goal with this podcast is to give you the tools and the resources to not only help you start feeling better about your breakup and start closing that chapter of your life, but also really discover who it is that you are, what it is that you really want and what it is that you really want in a partner.

I know it may not feel like it right this minute, but this breakup may very well have been the best thing that ever happened to you. I truly believe that. I think when we go through breakups, we are sort of forced to reevaluate our lives. And I think that can be an incredible gift. That can be an incredible time in our lives to really figure out these things, you know, like what exactly is it that we want for our lives? A lot of times in relationships we become so consumed with the other person’s wants, needs, desires, ambitions, et cetera, that sometimes we neglect our own.

So the purpose of this podcast, although we are going to talk a lot about relationships and breakups and those sort of things, this podcast is about you. I want you to take full advantage of this time, where you can have these reflections and really start thinking about what it is that’s important to you.

I want you to stop settling for less than what you want and less than what you deserve and start living a more intense life. And that includes having relationships that are meaningful, having goals, having visions for yourself. That’s all so, so important. So during this time where you may feel like you are alone and sad and not really, or what to do next, I wanna give you the tools. I wanna tell you, teach you what it is that you should be doing next.

Just a little bit about me. My name is Lauren. Like I mentioned, I am 30 years old, so I am a millennial. I am also a travel nurse. I am a real life nurse… and honestly I’m just a girl who’s been dumped a lot. You know, it sounds slightly embarrassing to say, but I’m telling you because number one, it’s the truth. And number two, who it was the whole inspiration for me to start this business of the heartbreak nurse and start this podcast. And everything that I’m doing now is a result of the time that I spent after my last really bad breakup. Just kind of getting to know myself and figuring out all these things that I want to teach you about.

So during that time, I realized that I wanted to start a business. I had always been interested in entrepreneurship and I had heard from all the cool people in the business world that, you know, the, the thing to do is to think of something that you have overcome and help other people do it as well. So I thought about it for a long time and I couldn’t really figure out how I could help people or what I had to offer.

And then this idea came into my head, Hey, you know what? I’ve kind of been dealt a rough hand when it comes to relationships and I’ve kind of, you know, haven’t always had the best of luck so to speak. But because of that, I have become so secure in who I am, and I know exactly what I want and exactly where I’m going. And I’m at such a great place right now that even though I am, you know, quote unquote single, I, I am okay with it and more than just being okay with it. I love it. I am have the best time I am cherishing these moments. And these months and years of my life, where I am my only responsibility, you know, eventually I would love to be married and have kids and all that good stuff, but it doesn’t mean I have to be miserable right now while I’m watching other people accomplish those things and we’ll get into the comparison trap and, and all that stuff later.

But I just want you to know that you can absolutely enjoy being alone and being single. Um, it can actually be, I, I, I think this’ll probably want be one of the parts of my life that I will be so grateful that I had. If you feel like you are nowhere near that point, I don’t want you to feel bad. Um, that is the whole reason why I’m doing this podcast and why I started this business so that I could help people get there so that I could help people realize that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and it’s most likely way, way better than you could have imagined.

So right now you might be in a place where you are just constantly bombarded by your thoughts, thinking about the relationship and the good memories and the bad memories. And I should have said this and why did he, he say that and why did he do this? And why did I do that? And it can just go on and on and on and on. And I see this all the time. So unfortunately the problem with that is, is that it keeps you stuck. It keeps you stuck in this perpetual state of and overanalyzing, and it can be very time consuming. It can cause a lot of anxiety and this is all totally normal. It’s these are, this is what happens to a lot of people. Most people when they go through a breakup. So what I am trying to is basically, if you feel like you are drowning in your own thoughts and fears, I’m trying to throw you a, a life jacket and say, you know, get on the boat. Like I want to save you from this constant state of overthinking and overanalyzing and this roller coaster of emotions where you’re okay, one minute, and then you’re angry and then you’re crying.
And you know, this, just this cycle that continues to repeat itself.

Now the key and the thing that is really going to help you move on is personal growth. And I know this is something that you’ve probably heard before, but it is a hundred percent true. You have to do the work internally so that you can move on and create a better life and better relationships. It has to start from the inside. And you know, a lot of people say that time heals everything. And I don’t necessarily agree with that. I think time heals some things, but not everything. So in addition to giving ourselves time, we also need to put in the effort, um, to put in the effort for ourselves to show up for ourselves. Sh I want you to show up for yourself, like you showed up for that other person that was the other half of your relationship.

What if you started showing up for yourself, the way that you always showed up for them, imagine how quickly and how drastically your life would change. Right? You have got to start prioritizing yourself. And, you know, we hear a lot about, um, self care and it’s, this is not just a fad. This is something that’s so important. Your mental, emotional, physical wellbeing is the most, the most important things that you can work on, right? You may get married and have a long, happy, wonderful marriage, but the person that you will spend the most time with in this life is yourself. You also need to preserve your mental and emotional wellbeing, and that sometimes includes creating boundaries with other people. And that’s something else that we’re going to, to talk about. I want you to stop letting other people dictate so much of your emotions. The crazy thing is, and a lot of people don’t realize this, but you are 100% in control of your thoughts, feelings, and actions, right?

And everyone else individually is in control of their own. So once you, number one, learn that you are in control of your own thoughts, feelings, and actions. And you understand that you can’t change anyone else’s because they have their own agency. They, they are in control of those things and you are in control of yours. It makes your life so much easier, so much easier, and it takes some work. But once you start kind of living by that principle, it, everything just gets so much better in terms of relationships. We’ve got a lot of great things coming up on the podcast. I’m going to teach you lots of personal growth strategies and mindset hack. Um, we’re gonna have some motivational material to help you keep going through this process. And I’m just really excited for you. I hope that you’re excited too, because this is going to be the beginning of not necessarily a new you, but you becoming the person that you were meant to be and having the relationship that you were meant to have.

So if you haven’t downloaded it yet, or if you are just finding me, I want to invite you to download my free eGuide that I created for you. It’s called seven things to do right after the breakup. Um, and even if you know, you’re not coming off of a fresh breakup, it still can be useful. Um, I do get a lot of people that say that they are stuck and they feel like they don’t know what to do next, or maybe they haven’t done the right things up to this point. Um, so if that’s you, I have a quick little guide with seven steps to help you get started in the right direction. If you’re interested in downloading that it is, I will put a link to it in the description of this episode. In addition to that, if you want to start following along every week and start getting notified when new episodes come out, I invite you to who hit the subscribe button, whether that’s in apple podcast, Spotify, wherever you listen to your podcast, new episodes will be released every Tuesday.

So the show will be once a week, every Tuesday, and will be talking about all kinds of different topics, breakups, personal growth. Obviously we’ll talk about dating all sorts of different stuff. So if you wanna follow along, go ahead and hit that subscribe button. I just wanna leave you with one final thought. And that is no matter how terrible things may seem right now, how much pain you may be in how much worry you may have inside of you. I want you to know that you will be okay. You will get through this. It may not be today. It may not be tomorrow or the next day, but you are going to get through this.

And I’m going to do my very best to help you do that as quickly and as efficiently as possible. I am going to give you all of the information that I have learned through all of my experiences, although they may be very different from yours. However, I think it will be helpful to you. I know that it will be helpful to you, and that is why I have chosen to create this podcast so that I can share this information with you and help you as much as possible. So with that said, I will see you in the next episode.